Monday, March 11, 2019
Sunday, February 26, 2012
I'll keep this post concise and because I have allowed my anger and rage to wane, I can put together a post without resorting to using expletives.
CHANGE Atlanta's shameless showbiz activism has done absolutely NOTHING but further the celebrity of CHANGE ATLANTA members. In fact, CHANGE ATLANTA members Ward, Jackson, and Nichols have used local media outlets to engage in the worst sort of victim blaming ever. Regardless of what you think of gay people, Brandon White, or even the defendants, the fact remains that Brandon White was brutally attacked by 3 men on February 4, 2012. As Brandon was being attacked, the men charged with beating Brandon called him FAGGOT several times. They went on record displaying their chagrin and hatred for all LGBT people - not just Brandon.
Wednesday, February 8, 2012
Monday, February 6, 2012
UPDATE: FBI Joins APD in pursuit of Federal Hate Crimes Charges
Sunday, December 11, 2011
Now he is maturing to realize and come clean about his decision but he isn't even close to understanding he left out the metric rate of ownership he put into it and all other heirarchal behaviors we abide to or have to go along with as normalized systems of managing ourselves in a modern world.
Those people that dropped were the stronger ones and the smarter ones. But they were not recognized by heirarchal society as leaders for disobeying the silly observance and ritualistic thoughts.
I have a forty-something Black male cousin who is stuck in so many ways in his life because he wanted heirarchal stewardship to shape his life. And it did. He can't detach from believing in heirarchies because he spent so much time invested in the romanticism of believing it redeemed him and made him righteous. He thought it would make his wise and exceptional. And that's why they all join. They all think something magical is going to make them an exceptional being because of joining the heirarchies. Time is wasted, humanity is developmentally stunted...intelligence is warped.
I have a friend who denounced the Greek/Pan Hellenic system after she 'crossed because she realized she was a neanderthal for sticking with it. After 'crossing, she realized it was a deformed system of management and all that romanticism was inept. She refuses to put it on her resumes or to own anything and she was someone they begged to reconsider. She is in her fifties now. It's people like her that needed to be able to find other people like themselves to take down these heirarchies in Black America that do nothing to advance us. But she had limited resources and didn't think there was more of her out there. And Charles Blow shows that they're aren't. He's trying to act like he is evolved by admitting it did hurt in the past. He's just coming clean now because it took him this long developmentally to realize how long he has abided to not getting it.
How can he now explain why he has been bragging about membership in an antiquated system? It's everywhere in print that he is a member. He used to brag about it for an edge. Now that edge isn't so cache. The value that heirarchies once had isn't the same in the evolving world of intelligence. It makes it hard to pass off one's self as an evolutionary man working at The Times when that is blaring at everyone to see that you are slow at recognizing this wasn't something to brag about...being a member of an antiquated heirarchal system.
Thursday, December 1, 2011
I had an interesting conversation with one of my professors about that changing landscape of HIV activism. She made an interesting argument about how the Breast Cancer movement was able to build itself out of removing shame and stigma associated with the disease, to one that empowers breast cancer survivors. How can we as HIV positive people do the same thing? How can we move forward? When can we celebrate AIDS in the same fashion we celebrate breast cancer?
I solicited a few thoughts from close friends of mine who are also HIV positive and the reponses were overwhelmingly positive, but still affected by stigma. I was going to publish them here, but will save them for another time because I want to tell their stories. For now, in celebration of World AIDS Day, go get tested. If you are positive, keep living life.
Things can only get better if you have an absurd determination to live.
Wednesday, June 15, 2011
Tuesday, June 14, 2011
Wednesday, December 29, 2010
Monday, June 28, 2010
At least one DPS board member said Friday that he has no problem with Mathis remaining on the board.Reverend David Murray said Mathis took responsibility for his bad behavior toward Gueyser."He's a young man; maybe he didn't know it was offensive to her," Murray said of the 55-year-old Mathis. "It's not something I would do. He's a young man. That's just the way it is."
Sunday, May 30, 2010
Video of the Now defunct hit sketch comedy series, "In Living Color":
Now how are these two different? They aren't. As fake and contrivved as the In Living Color skit is, it is at least funny. The Nigga Church? Not so much. How the hell are these people supposed to be the Salt of the Earth and witnesses for da Lawd, when they are in church acting like a bunch of Chitlin' Eatin' Sambos?
Tuesday, March 2, 2010
Welcome to 2010. I am now 35 years of age and little older and wiser. I'm a bit more intuitive, much more self-aware, and a bit more self accepting. Have you ever undergone an introspective moment in your life where everything just suddenly fell into place and you could hear your brain saying "A HA!"? It's as if the stars aligned, purpose became clear, and focused sharpened. At that very moment anything you choose to accomplish can be done with minimal effort; you are self motivated and determined.
I had one of those moments during my birthday weekend.
For some time now I have been struggling with a number of decisions to make that will influence my future directions. I have always known what the outcomes should be, but there have ALWAYS been multiple paths. It makes it incredibly difficult to decide on one course when there are so many options to choose from. I am also an incredibly proud and extremely self-reliant person, so asking for guidance isn't one of my strong suits, particularly because I have been running the show of my life since I was about 15 or so. Add to that complete independence at 17, lack of parental guidance or involvement during the college selection process, emancipation, and total financial independence all around the same time.
I won't disclose what my future directions are because as a wise man once told me, "You should NEVER reveal your dreams to ANYONE because they will talk you out of them." So I didn't write this for advice, but as a means of documenting and silently articulating what those goals are.
What I will disclose is that I have secured admission to a program that my science background will prove useful. I am excited about the prospect and no, I have not abandoned Law School. Ive simply altered the path to get there.
Tuesday, February 23, 2010
In any case, my first post after a long hiatus will be POT LUCK about black love and relationships, more foolishness about Chitlin' Eatin Niggas, The Nigga Church, the uselessness of Black History Month, and further proof that black folks continue to lose their God Damned minds.
Of course, me being the witty negro that I am, I'll be infusing my post with my standard acerbic capricorn wit.
So, to my followers and fellow blog rollers, I'm BACK!!!
Friday, November 20, 2009
PROTESTERS TO GREET R. KELLY ON TUESDAY AND WEDNESDAY NIGHT DURING D.C. CONCERT AT DAR CONSTITUTION HAL
WASHINGTON, D.C. - November 20, 2009 - When popular R& B crooner R. Kelly hits the stage at the DAR Constitution Hall on Tuesday and Wednesday night he may hit a sour note with a group of protesters fed up with his racy lyrics that they say objectify and degrade black women and girls. Some concerned citizens of the Washington, DC metro area have their own song to sing to Mr. Kelly: stop objectifying and degrading black women and girls.
“R. Kelly is no stranger to controversy. He is most infamously known for being tried and acquitted for several felony child molestation and child pornography charges. He’s also known for very sexually suggestive lyrics and continues to degrade black women and girls by making his music.” says Vicki Bleus, a protest organizer.
The purpose of this protest is to call attention to the fact R. Kelly’s sexually suggestive lyrics disrespect black women and girls. The protest organizers believe that silent demonstration is one of the most effective methods for voicing opposition to the continued victimization of black women and girls by popular music. “The hypersexualization of the black feminine aesthetic is based on revolting and destructive stereotypes that originated with the institution of slavery”, adds Shane Johnson, a local blogger-turned-community activist. “As a man I find R. Kelly’s music dehumanizing and disgusting. Instead of lifting black women and girls up, he is complicit in their continued objectification.”
The protest will occur each night of the concert on November 24 and 25, 2009. Protesters will assemble with picket signs at 5:45 pm and will remain outside of the concert hall until 10:30 pm. The Protest will take place on the 17th Street NW sidewalk bordering the main entrance of the DAR Constitution Hall.
“This protest is a call to arms for anyone who cares about black women. This was a crime against humanity and I am surprised at the level of apathy and lack of outrage from our self-appointed black leaders.” said Johnson.
For more information, please contact Shane Johnson at firstname.lastname@example.org.
Thursday, November 19, 2009
Friday, October 2, 2009
I go, I got to him.
Love cannot falter,
Though it be shunned,
Or be forgotten,
Though it be hurt,
If love be love, It will not alter.
O should I see
My love in need;
It shall not matter
What he may be,
I go to him.
Love cannot falter,
Time cannot alter
A loving heart;
An ever-loving heart.
Wednesday, August 26, 2009
Well, things worked out a little different from the way I thought, but let
me tell you, I still love New York.
My fellow Democrats and my fellow Americans, I have come here tonight
not to argue as a candidate but to affirm a cause. I'm asking you--I am asking
you to renew the commitment of the Democratic Party to economic justice.
I am asking you to renew our commitment to a fair and lasting
prosperity that can put America back to work.
This is the cause that brought me into the campaign and that sustained
me for nine months across 100,000 miles in 40 different states. We had our
losses, but the pain of our defeats is far, far less than the pain of the people
that I have met.
We have learned that it is important to take issues seriously, but
never to take ourselves too seriously.
The serious issue before us tonight is the cause for which the
Democratic Party has stood in its finest hours, the cause that keeps our Party
young and makes it, in the second century of its age, the largest political
party in this republic and the longest lasting political party on this
Our cause has been, since the days of Thomas Jefferson, the cause of
the common man and the common woman.
Our commitment has been, since the days of Andrew Jackson, to all those
he called "the humble members of society--the farmers, mechanics, and laborers."
On this foundation we have defined our values, refined our policies and
refreshed our faith.
Now I take the unusual step of carrying the cause and the commitment of
my campaign personally to our national convention. I speak out of a deep sense
of urgency about the anguish and anxiety I have seen across America.
I speak out of a deep belief in the ideals of the Democratic Party, and
in the potential of that Party and of a President to make a difference. And I
speak out of a deep trust in our capacity to proceed with boldness and a common
vision that will feel and heal the suffering of our time and the divisions of
The economic plank of this platform on its face concerns only material
things, but it is also a moral issue that I raise tonight. It has taken many
forms over many years. In this campaign and in this country that we seek to
lead, the challenge in 1980 is to give our voice and our vote for these
fundamental democratic principles.
Let us pledge that we will never misuse unemployment, high interest
rates, and human misery as false weapons against inflation.
Let us pledge that employment will be the first priority of our
Let us pledge that there will be security for all those who are now at
work, and let us pledge that there will be jobs for all who are out of work; and
we will not compromise on the issue of jobs.
These are not simplistic pledges. Simply put, they are the heart of our
tradition, and they have been the soul of our Party across the generations. It
is the glory and the greatness of our tradition to speak for those who have no
voice, to remember those who are forgotten, to respond to the frustrations and
fulfill the aspirations of all Americans seeking a better life in a better
We dare not forsake that tradition. We cannot let the great purposes of
the Democratic Party become the bygone passages of history.
We must not permit the Republicans to seize and run on the slogans of
prosperity. We heard the orators at their convention all trying to talk like
Democrats. They proved that even Republican nominees can quote Franklin
Roosevelt to their own purpose.
The Grand Old Party thinks it has found a great new trick, but 40 years
ago an earlier generation of Republicans attempted the same trick. And Franklin
Roosevelt himself replied, "Most Republican leaders have bitterly fought and
blocked the forward surge of average men and women in their pursuit of
happiness. Let us not be deluded that overnight those leaders have suddenly
become the friends of average men and women."
"You know," he continued, "very few of us are that gullible." And four
years later when the Republicans tried that trick again, Franklin Roosevelt
asked "Can the Old Guard pass itself off as the New Deal? I think not. We have
all seen many marvelous stunts in the circus, but no performing elephant could
turn a handspring without falling flat on its back."
The 1980 Republican convention was awash with crocodile tears for our
economic distress, but it is by their long record and not their recent words
that you shall know them.
The same Republicans who are talking about the crisis of unemployment
have nominated a man who once said, and I quote, "Unemployment insurance is a
prepaid vacation plan for freeloaders." And that nominee is no friend of
The same Republicans who are talking about the problems of the inner
cities have nominated a man who said, and I quote, "I have included in my
morning and evening prayers every day the prayer that the Federal Government not
bail out New York." And that nominee is no friend of this city and our great
urban centers across this Nation.
The same Republicans who are talking about security for the elderly
have nominated a man who said just four years ago that "Participation in social
security should be made voluntary." And that nominee is no friend of the senior
citizens of this Nation.
The same Republicans who are talking about preserving the environment
have nominated a man who last year made the preposterous statement, and I quote,
"Eighty percent of our air pollution comes from plants and trees."
And that nominee is no friend of the environment.
And the same Republicans who are invoking Franklin Roosevelt have
nominated a man who said in 1976, and these are his exact words, "Fascism was
really the basis of the New Deal." And that nominee whose name is Ronald Reagan
has no right to quote Franklin Delano Roosevelt.
The great adventures which
our opponents offer is a voyage into the past. Progress is our heritage, not
What is right for us as Democrats is also the right way for Democrats to
The commitment I seek is not to outworn views but to old values that
will never wear out. Programs may sometimes become obsolete, but the ideal of
fairness always endures.
Circumstances may change, but the work of compassion must continue. It
is surely correct that we cannot solve problems by throwing money at them, but
it is also correct that we dare not throw out our national problems onto a scrap
heap of inattention and indifference.
The poor may be out of political fashion, but they are not without human
needs. The middle class may be angry, but they have not lost the dream that all
Americans can advance together.
The demand of our people in 1980 is not for smaller government or
bigger government but for better government.
Some say that government is always bad and that spending for basic social
programs is the root of our economic evils. But we reply: The present inflation
and recession cost our economy $200 billion a year. We reply: Inflation and
unemployment are the biggest spenders of all.
The task of leadership in 1980 is not to parade scapegoats or to seek
refuge in reaction, but to match our power to the possibilities of progress.
While others talked of free enterprise, it was the Democratic Party that acted
and we ended excessive regulation in the airline and trucking industry and we
restored competition to the marketplace.
And I take some satisfaction that this deregulation was legislation that I
sponsored and passed in the Congress of the United States.
As Democrats we recognize that each generation of Americans has a
rendezvous with a different reality. The answers of one generation become the
questions of the next generation.
But there is a guiding star in the American firmament. It is as old as the
revolutionary belief that all people are created equal, and as clear as the
contemporary condition of Liberty City and the South Bronx.
Again and again Democratic leaders have followed that star and they
have given new meaning to the old values of liberty and justice for all.
We are the party.
We are the party of the New Freedom, the New Deal and the New Frontier. We
have always been the party of hope. So this year let us offer new hope, new hope
to an America uncertain about the present, but unsurpassed in its potential for
To all those who are idle in the cities and industries of America let
us provide new hope for the dignity of useful work. Democrats have always
believed that a basic civil right of all Americans is their right to earn their
The party of the people must always be the party of full employment. To all
those who doubt the future of our economy, let us provide new hope for the
reindustrialization of America. And let our vision reach beyond the next
election or the next year to a new generation of prosperity. If we could rebuild
Germany and Japan after World War II, then surely we can reindustrialize our own
nation and revive our inner cities in the 1980s.
To all those who work hard for a living wage let us provide new hope
that the price of their employment shall not be an unsafe workplace and a death
at an earlier age.
To all those who inhabit our land from California to the New York
Island, from the Redwood Forest to the Gulfstream waters, let us provide new
hope that prosperity shall not be purchased by poisoning the air, the rivers and
the natural resources that are the greatest gift of this continent.
We must insist that our children and our grandchildren shall inherit a
land which they can truly call America the beautiful.
To all those who see the worth of their work and their savings taken by
inflation, let us offer new hope for a stable economy. We must meet the
pressures of the present by invoking the full power of government to master
In candor, we must say that the Federal budget can be balanced only by
policies that bring us to a balanced prosperity of full employment and price
And to all those overburdened by an unfair tax structure, let us
provide new hope for real tax reform. Instead of shutting down classrooms, let
us shut off tax shelters.
Instead of cutting out school lunches, let us cut off tax subsidies for
expensive business lunches that are nothing more than food stamps for the
The tax cut of our Republican opponents takes the name of tax reform in
vain. It is a wonderfully Republican idea that would redistribute income in the
wrong direction. It is good news for any of you with incomes over $200,000 a
year. For the few of you, it offers a pot of gold worth $14,000. But the
Republican tax cut is bad news for the middle income families.
For the many
of you, they plan a pittance of $200 a year, and that is not what the Democratic
Party means when we say tax reform.
The vast majority of Americans cannot afford this panacea from a
Republican nominee who has denounced the progressive income tax as the invention
of Karl Marx. I am afraid he has confused Karl Marx with Theodore
Roosevelt--that obscure Republican president who sought and fought for a tax
system based on ability to pay. Theodore Roosevelt was not Karl Marx, and the
Republican tax scheme is not tax reform.
Finally, we cannot have a fair prosperity in isolation from a fair
society. So I will continue to stand for a national health insurance.
We must not surrender to the relentless medical inflation that can
bankrupt almost anyone and that may soon break the budgets of government at
every level. Let us insist on real control over what doctors and hospitals can
charge, and let us resolve that the state of a family's health shall never
depend on the size of a family's wealth.
The President, the Vice President, the members of Congress have a
medical plan that meets their needs in full, and whenever senators and
representatives catch a little cold, the Capitol physician will see them
immediately, treat them promptly, fill a prescription on the spot. We do not get
a bill even if we ask for it, and when do you think was the last time a member
of Congress asked for a bill from the Federal Government?
I say again, as I have before, if health insurance is good enough for
the President, the Vice President and the Congress of the United States, then it
is good enough for you and every family in America.
There were some who said we should be silent about our differences on
issues during this convention, but the heritage of the Democratic Party has been
a history of democracy. We fight hard because we care deeply about our
principles and purposes. We did not flee this struggle. We welcome the contrast
with the empty and expedient spectacle last month in Detroit where no nomination
was contested, no question was debated, and no one dared to raise any doubt or
Democrats can be proud that we chose a different course and a different
platform. We can be proud that our party stands for investment in safe energy
instead of a nuclear future that may threaten the future itself.
We must not permit the neighborhoods of America to be permanently
shadowed by the fear of another Three Mile Island.
We can be proud that our party stands for a fair housing law to unlock
the doors of discrimination once and for all. The American house will be divided
against itself so long as there is prejudice against any American buying or
renting a home.
And we can be proud that our party stands plainly and publicly and
persistently for the ratification of the Equal Rights Amendment.
Women hold their rightful place at our convention, and women must have
their rightful place in the Constitution of the United States. On this issue we
will not yield, we will not equivocate, we will not rationalize, explain or
excuse. We will stand for E.R.A. and for the recognition at long last that our
nation was made up of founding mothers as well as founding fathers.
A fair prosperity and a just society are within our vision and our
grasp, and we do not have every answer. There are questions not yet asked,
waiting for us in the recesses of the future, but of this much we can be certain
because it is the lesson of all our history: Together a president and the people
can make a difference. I have found that faith still alive wherever I have
traveled across this land. So let us reject the counsel of retreat and the call
to reaction. Let us go forward in the knowledge that history only helps those
who help themselves.
There will be setbacks and sacrifices in the years ahead but I am
convinced that we as a people are ready to give something back to our country in
return for all it has given to us.
Let this be our commitment: Whatever sacrifices must be made will be
shared and shared fairly. And let this be our confidence: At the end of our
journey and always before us shines that ideal of liberty and justice for
In closing, let me say a few words to all those that I have met and to
all those who have supported me, at this convention and across the country.
There were hard hours on our journey, and often we sailed against the wind. But
always we kept our rudder true, and there were so many of you who stayed the
course and shared our hope. You gave your help, but even more, you gave your
Because of you, this has been a happy campaign. You welcomed Joan, me
and our family into your homes and neighborhoods, your churches, your campuses,
your union halls. When I think back of all the miles and all the months and all
the memories, I think of you. I recall the poet's words, and I say: What golden
friends I have.
Among you, my golden friends across this land, I have listened and
I have listened to Kenny Dubois, a glassblower in Charleston, West
Virginia, who has ten children to support but has lost his job after 35 years,
just three years short of qualifying for his pension.
I have listened to the
Trachta family who farm in Iowa and who wonder whether they can pass the good
life and the good earth on to their children.
I have listened to the grandmother in East Oakland who no longer has a
phone to call her grandchildren because she gave it up to pay the rent on her
I have listened to young workers out of work, to students without the
tuition for college, and to families without the chance to own a home.
I have seen the closed factories and the stalled assembly lines of
Anderson, Indiana and South Gate, California, and I have seen too many, far too
many idle men and women desperate to work. I have seen too many, far too many
working families desperate to protect the value of their wages from the ravages
Yet I have also sensed a yearning for new hope among the people in
every state where I have been. And I have felt it in their handshakes, I saw it
in their faces, and I shall never forget the mothers who carried children to our
rallies. I shall always remember the elderly who have lived in an America of
high purpose and who believe that it can all happen again.
Tonight, in their name, I have come here to speak for them. And for
their sake, I ask you to stand with them. On their behalf I ask you to restate
and reaffirm the timeless truth of our party.
I congratulate President Carter on his victory here.
I am confident that the Democratic Party will reunite on the basis of
Democratic principles, and that together we will march towards a Democratic
victory in 1980.
And someday, long after this convention, long after the signs come
down, and the crowds stop cheering, and the bands stop playing, may it be said
of our campaign that we kept the faith. May it be said of our Party in 1980 that
we found our faith again.
And may it be said of us, both in dark passages and in bright days, in
the words of Tennyson that my brothers quoted and loved, and that have special
meaning for me now:
"I am a part of all that I have met....
Tho much is taken, much abides....
That which we are, we are-- One equal temper of heroic
...strong in willTo strive, to seek, to find, and not to yield."
For me, a few hours ago, this campaign came to an end.
For all those whose cares have been our concern, the work goes on,
the cause endures, the hope still lives, and the dream shall never
Tuesday, August 11, 2009
One of your readers said the country was run by “old white men” — but just where is the proof of that? We have a black president, a black attorney general, a female secretary of state and many cabinet chiefs or senior posts are filled by non-white males. Whites are now the minority in four states, including California.
In 20 years,17 states will be minority white. Most big city mayors are non-white male. As a gay male, even I know that those so-called “old white men”(read:straight) have passed many laws that have benefited minority groups. Ask yourself, can you honestly see a Supreme Court totally black, female and Hispanic? I shudder at the thought. What’s next? A chairman of the Joint Chiefs bringing his sheep to work? A few cross-dressing senators on the floor filibustering? A group of drag queen representatives in the House? A blind 747 pilot? A deaf music critic? Lifeguards who cannot swim? Why not, isn’t it their human/civil right? Just how far will the envelope be pushed before we implode?
As far as your reader who worried about “old white men,” he does not have to worry for long. The last real generation of whites are lying beneath the sands of Iwo Jima and Normandy. Now, most are pink with yellow stripes running down their backs. Rome tried multiculturalism and look what happened to them. It’s only a matter of time. I would prefer straight whites making command decisions. Heaven help this country if we don’t.
Now, to this reader's credit I can understand his point about the ever increasing inclusiveness of the gay community. How many other letters will be used to ensure that every person who simply identifies themself as an abberation to the accepted social norm will we allow to be recognized? However, the reader's racism begins to rear its ugly head and all of his points disintegrate into a tirade that exposes his racial prejudices, heteronormative bias, AND - dare I say it, internalized homophobia )for which blacks gays are VILLIFIED in both mainstream and gay media)!
- He must have failed history because he completely ignored the preceding 389 years or so of systemic racial segregation, deprivation of equality, and legalized discrimination.
- He assumes that one election of the FIRST black president in the 230-year history of the United States had more to do with timing than the influence of what I previously mentioned
- He assumes that ONLY whites, particularly white men possess the temperament to make good decisions (dissmissing the fact that whites DECIDED to institutionalize the items mentioned in the first bullet)
- He assumes that the playing field has been leveled by white men's "passage of laws that have benefitted minorities", while ignoring the fact that they selectively chose to ingore enforcing those laws - after all, how fast does one move when they are desegregating at "full deliberate speed"?
- He feels entitled to the USA being his and whites' ALONE. No other people born in this country are as AUTHENTIC as the whites "beneath the sands of Iwo Jima and Normandy" (a POV commonly expressed by whites at McCain and Palin POTUS campaign rallies. More recently from the whites who comprise the BIRTHERS movement)
I sincerely wish I could say that this letter represents an extreme POV on behalf of members of what is considered the mainstream gay community, but it doesn't. In fact, if you look at historical accounts of the Gay Rights Movement you'd be hard pressed to find any significant mention of the Black and Puerto Rican drag queens who were tired of being harrassed by the NYPD and decided to fight back by hurling whatever they could get their hands on at the officers.
With gays who are a little less shallow and somewhat educated, Gay means a handsome gentleman who is typically white, professional, owns a remodeled home that he may or my not have completed himself, may be partnered, considering adoption, but DEFINITELY owns a dog or a cat. Again, you seldom see an image of gay that INCLUDES any person OTHER than a white male. Even if the image is female, she typically has taken on a gender specific look that isn't neutral. Gay - typically means white and male.